Franken-naming

So I finally got around to changing my name on my website. The legal ramifications of which, I have no idea about. Katie and I are still waiting for our marriage certificate to come in the mail so we can take care of all the other affiliated business of name changing and everything else.

Speaking of which, I've been asked a lot about how we came to the name conclusion that we did. Prototypically it's the man's last name that gets adopted as the family name, though more and more women at present are adopting to keep their own names when they get married. This, we could have done, but Katie thought ahead and decided that it is important that she have the last name of our children.

Thus, we had to find a middle ground. We could change our last name to a "franken-name" Say, Givime, or Kivens. That might have worked, but we just didn't like the sound of any of them. I could take her name, but that would just be replacing one outdated system, with another albeit BRAND NEW outdated system. So, we chose to work our middle names into our decision.

I would take her name as my last or middle name, and she would do the same for me. What order were the names to be? I left that decision for her to make. She picked Givens Kime, over Kime Givens because she thinks it sounds better (alliteration wise.)

Thus, our children, somewhere down the line, already have middle and last names. Now, we just have to pick first names, and that's another entry for another day.

The problem still remains. How do we take this blind, male dominated system of re-naming women through marriage and push it foward into the light of a new, and harmonious day? I think there are many more options available when you put your middle name to work for you, but that's just me.

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